Stoic Lemonade: This is a great day, because nothing changed since 2018!

Did you experience any life-changing events when you celebrated the 2018-2019 transition?
I will wager you didn’t.
We would like to believe there’s a mystical force that separates the old year from the new.
Technically we know there isn’t.
But the New Year’s Eve celebration is at least cathartic.
Humans don’t like to admit they need boundaries.
In the electronic world of “infinite scrolling” there’s some comfort in knowing certain things do have a logical conclusion.
You wouldn’t read a book if you knew there wasn’t going to be an “end?”
We do need certain thing to have properly defined endings.
But does anything really change when the watch’s hand creeps past the 12 o’clock mark?
I don’t think so.
You pop a few corks, become inebriated … dance and temporarily forget about your new year’s resolutions.
And then on the 1st of January you discover you’re still the same person after a hard night of partying.

So nothing changes!
What does that mean to me on a practical level?
If nothing changes overnight I needn’t live with self-induced stress and force myself to start working on my new year’s resolutions immediately.
Ok, I don’t do those… But knowing I haven’t changed since 2018 died gives me a sense of relief.
How so?
I still have the very same fears, insecurities and questions I had a few hours ago.
This means I can choose to address them at any time, should I wish to.
I needn’t address them simply because “we moved into a new year!”

If this sounds contrived and ridiculous, consider how we often wait for EVENTS before we erect MONUMENTS.
“When I reach 20 I will…”
“When I reach 30 I will…”
“When I reach 40 I will…”
“When I reach 50 I will…”
“Just wait until I get that new car!”
“Things will change when I start the new job!”
“In the new year I will reinvent myself!”
Bullshit, just do it now!

It took me a long time to realize I don’t need special events for doing special things.
I can accomplish a lot on the most mundane of days, simply because I choose to…

On a practical level, ask yourself what you would like to do today.
Which projects do you wish to start today?
Who do you wish to call today?
Do whatever you wish to do – Not because it is a “special” first day of the year, but because it is “a day!”
Make it tangible, because that is practical – Set your alarm.
Record a voicenote.
Write it on the fridge.

Until next time!
Have a great 2019/01/01

Image by Lex Lucas