Ruthlessly confronting the fear that erodes your joy and other emotions!

Sarge taught us that fear keeps the soldier awake, gunfire gets him moving and training might just pull him through!
I think he wanted to illustrate that fear is real but ultimately unproductive.

Recently I chatted to a colleague who had just come back from holiday.
He said he enjoyed the break a lot but each day he feared the “there’s a crisis” phone call from the office.
The call never came.
I’ve also been on that beach, sipping a cola while struggling to unwind completely and being too afraid to turn off my phone.

Fear becomes that insidious little gremlin that we can’t seem to shake.
Do you often fear or dread going to a highly-anticipated event?
I’ve heard people say they feared it being a disappointment.

Fear of getting hurt causes people to lose focus during dangerous activities… Often resulting in the injury or loss they feared.

Even when you’re sad fear can jump right in and convince you that you should fear shallow and fake emotions such as the “insignificant sadness” you’re feeling just now.
Fear easily begets doubt, telling you that many of your emotions are inadequate… Leading you on useless searches for valid expressions of how you were led to believe you should have felt.

Initially, I thought Sarge was full of BS.
But at a certain point, I realized fear only managed to alert me to a certain degree.
Yes, there is an adrenalin rush.
However, after that apex of perceived alertness fear started numbing me.
That’s where fatigue comes into play.
Spiritual and physical fatigue.

Fear is triggered by either perceived or real danger.
The trick is to understand when the danger is real.
That’s where Sarge’s words come into play.
Learn to tune into your environment a bit more.
Listen, observe and think about that which you perceive.

“They,” say you should face your fears.
Often they are correct!

It’s tough to simulate getting shot to tackle the fear of getting shot.
But you can read up about gunshot victims who survived.
You could visit someone who survived and had a real-life tale to tell about it.

I conquered my fear of heights by taking to the air in a microlight.
Yes, it was scary as hell, but the object of it all was to experience maximum fear.
Ultimately “fear” disappointed, and I ended up enjoying it enough to go up again!

As prepared as we might believe we are we’re seldom truly equipped to deal with that “worst-case scenario” we fear.
When the meteor hits Earth and eradicates all life no amount of fear would’ve been able to stop it.

Fear certainly has a place within the pantheon of human emotions, it’s also not the biggest demon we might face, as long as we don’t give it the powerful deciding vote within our ever-changing circus of emotions.